Do you and your spouse need to lose a few pounds? Improve your strength and endurance? Maybe tone your body?
If none of these questions trigger an irresistible impulse to eat differently and exercise, consider this question: would you like to spice up your sex life?
Getting fit together may be the answer. One of the top 10 reasons for a reduction in sex between partners is a dislike of one’s body. When this obstacle is removed, sexual interest and performance increase.
“Whatever your age, working out together can do wonders for your relationship and your body,” says Gayle Lossman, certified personal trainer with the South Yuba Club in Nevada City, California.
Here are three ideas couples can practice to become more FIT:
F: Find time for fun. Given the pressures of today’s economy, fun is the missing ingredient in many marriages. Lifting each other’s spirits through play reinforces your partnership and helps you remember why you married. Adopt an adventuresome spirit as you undertake your fitness makeover. Keep a joint journal. Record your progress and setbacks. Post pictures as the pounds start dropping off.
I: Integrate exercise into your daily routine. At the start of each month, schedule exercise play dates on your calendar. Make the appointments an inviolable part of your routine. Carving out a specific and recurring time for the two of you creates time together to look forward to. As you repeat the exercise activity, the experience becomes richer and more meaningful.
T: Tell your friends, neighbors and family about the fitness goals you and your spouse share. Take classes together. For example, sign up for a tennis clinic or play table tennis with neighbors each week. Enroll in a cooking class to learn how to enhance flavor and trim unneeded calories. If you’re trying to lose weight, attend weight-loss programs together.
As you move toward fitness, remember that a partner’s praise means more than praise from strangers. If your partner drops out, don’t give up. Continue your own regimen of eating carefully and exercising regularly. Partners influence each other—be patient while your partner decides to recommit to fitness. Remind your partner that better shape means better sex. And don’t forget that sex counts as exercise. You can burn about 200 calories in 30 minutes.
Setting aside time to play and get fit together improves the odds you’ll stay together—and live healthfully and happily ever after.
"Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. Swami X